My dear mother tells me, am at that age where my life is full of crises. It took me a while to understand what she really meant, but after evaluating my life, I got to see her point. For the better part of 2017 i was constantly complaining how things aint going my way from my career relationships, I was this unmotivated unhappy human being. I even thought I had anxiety problems.
As an escape to my problems I started reading a lot of personal blogs. I discovered Bikozulu’s work early last year, he happens to be one of the most amazing writers of our time. Through Biko’s story and that of his gang members I started appreciating the fact that life or rather success has no timelines but rather is a journey and I should not let anyone or society define it for me. I also developed an interest in personal development books, this is after a close friend asked me to read the “Alchemist by Paulo Coelho.” Reading the Alchemist made me aspire to find my purpose in life and to fulfill that purpose by chasing my dreams. Through Paulo’s work I learnt the need to take charge of my own life to seek my “personal legend” as he puts it and to always listen and respect the “omens” which I tend to think is our intuition.
The younger me always thought being an adult was the best thing ever but being one has made me realize that growing up is a complicated thing, it comes with a lot of uncertainty, pressure, self doubt. In spite of all these negative feelings, being in my twenties has been a humbling experience it has made me want to become a better person. I think of myself as person on a self discovery journey who is seeking to have a full meaningful life . I have re-evaluated my life and taken stock of the things and people that really matter. I have had to let go of things, hobbies and people that do not add value but rather derail me from living my personal legend. I have also had to re-evaluate myself my virtues and vices, because personal growth comes from within and for me to live a more purposeful life I have to be my own self and live for myself.
In recent times there has been a lot of talk on why human beings should practice the act of gratitude rather than complaining all the time. I think gratitude and appreciation for oneself should come hand in hand, there is need to redefine success to fit in our own terms. We should learn to celebrate our small milestones just like we celebrate our toddlers’ small achievement. We should not wait to be celebrated but rather celebrate ourselves we should not wait to be gifted but rather gift ourselves. Self growth and appreciation fosters a positive mindset and that in return is true power.
“Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job” by Jim Rohn